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Hiding From The UPS Store Guy

May 21, 2009 - 11:16 am No Comments

So – I was recently ripped off at the UPS store. A perfect little scam, which can easily be undetected or explained away as simple error.

I took a few pieces of oversized mail to be metered at the UPS store, the employee faithfully metered and placed them in his bin, then presented a receipt from the register. I never even thought to ask to see the mail again to compare it to the charge. The store makes the difference, and you never see the stamp, so you assume the charge for your oversized envelope is what you are asked to pay.

In this case, we are only talking about a few extra dollars per letter – $4.80 instead of the $2.35 of the meter mail. I had two larger envelopes and was charged about $5 for each.

I would not have noticed the “thumb on the scale” tactic – but for the fact that one of the letters was returned to my mailbox for lack of postage — it needed a few more cents. (!) I still had the UPS receipt, and I compared the charges. That’s when I noticed that I was ripped off.

I went back to the store and spoke to the same elderly attendant, who would not look at me in the eye, and sent the letters overnight UPS “on the house” to make me happy. As this was above and beyond the service I required, I was satisfied, and I could tell at this point he just wanted me to go away. (Why is it that I evoke this instinct in people?)

I really did not understand how an employee could benefit from such a scheme, since at the end of the day the amount collected would still match the amount received from the client. The only one that would benefit would be the owner, or indirectly, the employee because he can show higher sales and get promoted?

Who knows.

I did not frequent the store for a long time until this morning I had some items laminated and was attended by a younger man who had a name tag with the title manager under it. I told him that I wanted to relate something that happened to me in the store that made me very unhappy.

As I was speaking to him, I noticed the same older man who had scammed me come out from the back of the store. So the manager and I stepped outside to speak. I explained the situation and let him know I did not understand how anyone but the owner could benefit from this scam, one client at a time and with the right need for specific services that lend themselves to hard to detect overcharges.

“He IS the owner,” he said.

Great! So now I find myself speaking to the employee of the cheating owner. Probably lucky he has a job at all and I put him in this impossible position. I may have been righteous and unkind in my choice of words. No obscenities, but things like: “Once a cheater always a cheater…” may have come out of my mouth.

Whenever I experience a situation like this in which my judgement may be clouded by my unusual righteous tendencies, I like to check in with Tom. As I related the story, of course, he was not pleased, but was able to articulate another point of view. This is his gift.

First of all, he questioned, quite seriously about the need I have to go stir trouble, and what benefit do I personally derive from it? Second, whenever you enter into a monetary transaction, you have to be diligent, and you do have a choice to go to another store. Third, what if the guy is losing his home or his store, and doing whatever it takes to keep his people employed. So he scams the pretty lady with the nice ring a few dollars at a time. Everyone does it, right?

“So that makes it right and we should just roll over?” I cry out, grasping for any justification that comes to mind.

“No”, he said, “but you choose your battles,” he said. “Life is beautiful. Time is limited. What is the benefit?”

Tom went on to detail how people are on edge, and a client accusation to an underling that embarrasses a potential loose canon with a mental illness is all it may take to send the guy postal and have him show up at the front door to “chat”. They do, after all, have all of our personal information.

Notable previous Geri jihads included displaying righteous indignation against a Pakistani parking lot manager while I had the two kids in tow to obtain a well-advertised hotel/parking promotion; trespassing on desolate private property just to see the historic boat house we know must still exist when you are out walking alone (and no one knows where it is); breaking and entering into an apartment we owned against the advice of our attorney because the renter owed us money; the list goes on and on…

All are probably not good decisions to simply satisfy spontaneous quests for experiential knowledge.

So now I am home alone, with locked doors, and hiding from the UPS store owner…

Many people speak passionately when asked for their testimony. Mine came quietly on my kitchen floor, when I asked God to come into my life, rescue me from these sinful behaviors, guide me through whatever road I have left, and save me from myself, and the insidious impulses that drive me to make wrong decisions that sap time and beauty from life and may ultimately endanger our family …

BBQ Bulletin Board Bullying

May 1, 2009 - 9:37 am No Comments

You know, we love most aspects of condo living in Sarasota, but we were definitely not prepared for all the bullying and gossiping. I am starting to believe that moving into the third phase of life, the supposed golden years, is like regressing back to high school. There are cliques, all right, but less of them.

Mostly they break down into two large groups: there are the ones who come to relax and enjoy casual conversations around the pool, and then, there are the mean ones, who lurk in the dark leaving nasty messages on bulletin boards. What is going on?

At first I found it amusing, and wrote little “I love you too” notes after each insipid comment left next to our name. But yesterday, they upped the ante with a direct message: “You are rude and selfish”. Apparently my love notes must have hit some kind of nerve. Has this person not been showered with love recently?

So in typical Geri fashion, I took the time to write a lengthy message urging the frustrated soul to come forward so we can speak and I can continue showing them sweet loving.

What the heck is wrong with people? Don’t they realize we will all be dead soon and it is better to build than destroy? Isn’t easier to just be nice instead of carrying all these petty grievances?

Unfortunately, some people will die without finding truth, happiness and peace.

I Love Jesus… But I Drink A Little

February 13, 2009 - 2:24 pm No Comments

50 Years After Your Death

October 2, 2008 - 11:08 am No Comments

Our Pastor was talking about living a meaningful existence, a “purpose-driven life”, and he explained:

“50 years after your death, your children will likely be very old or dead, and your grandchildren may once in a while mention your name, or maybe you will accomplish something to merit a mention in Wikipedia…”

Other than that, nobody will even remember you existed.

The context was that the only enduring thing is a close-knit relationship with the Creator, which in turn makes living in His Creation meaningful. God provides a framework of accountability and submission. Putting Him at the center of your thoughts, words and actions means checking your pride and ego at the door.

George Carlin died this week. He was very funny and always questioned and challenged any religious dogma whatsoever. I heard him say that believers have it easy, because they can justify every horrible action with “It’s God’s will…” I may have little understanding, but it is much harder to live by His word than that. Being accountable to perfection cannot be easily done.

I do enjoy Carlin, Maher and Larry David and I find it amusing how threatened they are by the Christian faith. There is a lot of hypocrisy, I agree.  But there are a great deal of people of faith doing incredible things.

While I agree with Pastor Scott that we will not be remembered, I do think our actions in our wink of an existence can have a lasting impact. First and foremost, we can try to teach our children values that will positively affect whomever they come into contact with throughout their lives.

You can try to instill the importance of good communication, honesty, self-awareness, self-sufficiency, self-reliance, kindness, compassion, service, and a positive attitude.

This of course takes time, but if you have children, is there anything more important?

My grandpa died 9/29.  He was 98.  Just a few months after his death, few remember him.  His impact is felt in the dysfunctional, yet loving family he left behind.  He lived through a lot of history, and was a key link in a chain of emotionally stunted generations.  I say link, since I assume he was not the origin.  It has taken me years to break out of this chain, and I hope that 50 years after my death, my monumental efforts at restraint have some positive effect.  

Grandpa did not know God.  I hope my children do.